Thoughts on a Master/slave lifestyle
I did not write these but when I read them I identified with them very well and they represent how I feel and approach the lifestyle better than I could write Myself.
The author can be found here: http://www.the-iron-gate.com/essays/38
A Master’s Creed:
As it is often important and often even necessary for one human being to have certainty and a clear understanding of the intentions, desires, motivations, and needs of another, I offer this testimony in trust and sincerity.
I am a dominant man. I am just that. I am not dominant because of any superiority on my part. Not because I feel more intelligent or wiser.
I am not dominant because of the strength or the mass of my body.
I am not, nor would I want to be dominant with all women.
Yet, to you I am Master.
I am your Master only after earning your trust and I embrace your submissiveness. I have looked into your heart and mind, and clearly see your desires and passions. You have thrown away your desires and passions. You have thrown away your fears and inhibitions. You tell me of the needs of your heart and body. You have given me total access to your soul, and I accept the responsibility and honor. You are a woman. You are not weak or inferior because of it. You are a treasure to be cherished. We are not equal. I have the strength of body and mind and the instinctive need to protect, possess, defend, and provide for you. You are a woman and instinctively stronger of will and heart. Your belief in me gives me courage and direction. Your strength disperses my doubt.
Your needs and desires encourage and give purpose to my efforts. We are not equal. We are halves of a whole. We complement each other and make each other complete. My desire to dominate you is instinctive. It is not to degrade you nor is it degrading to you because you are secure in being totally feminine. We each recognize and accept our worth, and our need for someone to trust and fulfill our needs.
You are sure, strong, and proud in your womanhood. You do not submit as acceptance of inferiority, but from strength and passion. You expect a man to stand strong and be a man. You desire and flourish in the strength and control of a man. In return you present control of your body, unqualified trust and honesty, and the faithfulness of your heart. You submit because I have earned your trust. Because I have opened my heart and soul to you. Because I have listened to your word with my ears and heart and have learned to anticipate your needs and emotions. And because I have proven worthy in your eyes, you have given me the only true treasure of life; you have given me dominance over you. What you give is not abnormal, but pure, natural, and the rarest gift a woman can give a man. You have given me complete and unshakable assurance of your commitment to me. Your submissiveness is a magnificent gift and sacred responsibility. I accept this from you with humility and joy. I understand the rarity and purity of this gift.
I recognize it is your body, mind, and soul. I dominate you only because you have allowed me to, and when I see your body kneel before me in my mind and heart, you are raised above all other women and all the treasures of the earth.
Within the bounds of our relationship…it is my duty to protect you, and that you will know, that under my care; NO harm will come to you as a result of actions taken by Me..or you. That is my responsibility, to protect you..from yourself if necessary. What you give freely cannot in reality be bought.
A submissive’s Creed:
i am a submissive woman…
i find pleasure, joy and fulfillment from being submissive to another in a loving relationship
i am not weak, or stupid. i am a strong woman, with firm views and a clear concept of what i want out of my life.
i do not serve out of shame or weakness, but out of pride and strength.
i look to my loving Master for guidance and protection, for never am i more complete than when He is with me.
i know that He will protect my body, my mind and my soul with His strength and wisdom.
He is everything to me, as i am everything to Him.
His touch awakens me and His thoughts free me.
Only in serving Him do i find complete freedom and joy.
His punishments are harsh, but i accept them thankfully, knowing that He has my best interests always foremost in His mind.
If He desires my body for pleasure, i shall joyfully give it to Him, and take pleasure myself from knowing that i have brought Him happiness.
However, the pleasure of the flesh is but one facet of any relationship.
The love, the trust and sharing, the words spoken and felt, those are all parts of this relationship.
my body is His, and if He says i am beautiful, then i am.
No matter what i look like to others, i am beautiful in His eyes, and because of that i hold my head high for who can tell me that my Master is wrong in seeing the beauty in me?
If He says i am His princess, then i am that…regal and graceful.
And if i see laughter at me in the eyes of others, i do not recognize it, for who are they to call my Master wrong?
If He says i am His toy, His slut, His tramp, then i am that…as wanton and dirty as He wants me to be, and if others do not see this, then it is they who are blind, not my Master.
my mind is His, to expand, to explore, to know as only He can.
i have no secrets from Him…for secrets are a thing that would keep me from being perfectly His.
Secrets would put a wall up between my Master and myself…and i do not want walls.
His lessons are not always ones i would seek on my own, but they are lessons He has decided i need, and so i learn from Him.
my soul is His, as bare to His touch as ever my skin could be when i kneel naked at His feet.
Never a moment goes by when i do not feel his presence, be He miles away or standing over me.
If i were to ever displease Him, His displeasure would be a blow to my soul, worse punishment than any lashes could be.
The anguish of my soul that i feel when i disappoint Him is harder to bear than the physical anguish i feel when His belt caresses me with fire.
i spend my days knowing that the energy and thought He puts into our relationship is as much for my benefit as for His, and look forward to each lovingly crafted scene that we do together.
i am His pleasure and His responsibility, and He takes both seriously.
i am a submissive woman. i am proud to call myself that.
my submission is a gift that i do not give lightly, and can only be given to One who can appreciate that gift and return it tenfold.
Only to He who has that strength will i give myself fully, because i am strong and proud.
D/s and Intimacy
I was recently asked about the intimacy of D/s verse the pain side of play and full time submission (24/7) and what I thought of it. Instead of replying to the ask I decided to post a reply because I wanted to share with My followers and the character limits in the ask would never be enough room. This response has a high probability of going into more details than the person was expecting but I hope she finds all of this helpful.
D/s is the most intimate, real, intense love I have ever felt. How does one become more intimate with another? I think through a process of getting to know the other person (communication) and through shared experiences. Trust is also built by shared experiences where one person consistently does what they say they are going to do and consistently does the right thing. What is the right thing? It is whatever the two people in the relationship agree to. It can be anything, but both parties need to understand and accept it. (Communication)
The more you know and share with another, the more intimate your relationship is. Total Power Exchange (TPE) takes this to a whole new level. Trust above all else is necessary for TPE. Love and respect are important, but trust is critical. When a submissive agrees to TPE they are in effect saying “I have no limits and I trust you will take care of me”. While certain activities would be considered hard limits like fucking a dog or eating shit the submissive’s mind set is such that if the Master asked them to eat shit they would. However, this would most certainly lead to the submissive to questioning the Master’s decision making and it could quite possibly lead to the submissive leaving the relationship. When the Master pushes boundaries in the right way and at the appropriate time, when they fuck the mind as well as fuck the body, then the submissive tends to fall deeper in love with the Master. They want to please and serve even more because they LOVE the mind fuck and they trust their Master to keep them safe. Each experience where the sub crosses into a new territory but where their Master brings them back safely creates a deeper bond; a more intimate bond.
I love the feeling of being in control of My slave’s life. I love knowing she will do anything for Me. I also accept and understand the responsibility that comes with it. Each time we play it gets a little more extreme and each time she craves more than the last time. When I hurt her, she is suffering for Me as a sign of her love. Seeing someone I love endure real pain and discomfort is both a turn on and a heartwarming experience. I don’t get off on hurting her. I get off on having so much control that I can hurt her. The power exchange is what is addicting. Holding her and comforting her while the tears subside. Telling her how much I love her and how proud I am that she is willing to endure this makes her feel good about the experience. Endorphins are racing through her body, her head is in a meditative state, almost high, she feels good and then I reassure her she is safe. We kiss and hug and at that moment we are never more connected emotionally. It’s incredibly intimate. It’s intense, addicting, raw, and so pleasurable. This TPE relationship is the most intimate relationship I have even been in. I crave to know everything about lil one. How she thinks, how her body reacts to different stimulation, what she likes and dislikes for food, everything. TPE pushes Me to know her better than she knows herself. It pushes her to know Me very well too. She has dedicated her life to serving Me. That’s a lot of work. She knows My different moods, how I like to be touched and when, what I like to eat, how I like My shirts ironed…and the list goes on and on. We are two halves of a whole…each of us is not complete without the other. Lots of vanilla relationships claim this to, and I don’t disagree, but D/s raises the intensity. It’s like riding the roller coaster instead of the farris wheel.
D/s requires very honest communication as well. In fact, I credit D/s for making Me a much better communicator today than I was 15 years ago. What sometimes seems like obstacles that cannot be overcome do in fact get resolved when two committed people communicate and keep communicating no matter how long or hard until an agreement is reached. These obstacles will bring you closer together when they are settled. It’s another shared experience and makes your relationship more intimate.
In My opinion, a healthy D/s relationship is way more intimate than a vanilla one. It’s more intense too. I know now I could not go back to a vanilla relationship… it would seem boring to Me. D/s is not easier and in fact it’s harder than a vanilla relationship in some ways. But the rewards… ohhh the splendors of being in a healthy, loving, TPE relationship are unparalleled. It’s the most amazing thing I have ever experienced.